Freakout Moments

For two hours recently, I was pretty sure I had lost my wallet. To make matters worse, during the day I had traveled 100+ miles from my home.

One of the most likely places I had left it was a Subway restaurant in Mystic, CT. When I called to ask if they found a brown wallet, they said, “Yes, but we gave it to a man who came in and said it was his.” Did it have cards in my name? They had no idea. Arrgh!

My thoughts started focusing on the hassle of canceling my credit cards, getting a new license, and so on. Then I found my wallet! It had fallen out of my pocket and was behind my writing chair.

But here’s the rub… in the 20 minutes after my happy discovery, I felt more stressed than ever.

There are certain systems in our bodies we don’t fully control. My brain knew it made no sense to be upset after all was good, but calming down after two hours of anxiety takes a bit of time.

To me, this is a bit of a “fail” on my part. Being upset wouldn’t help me find my wallet or replace my cards.

Next time, I will try to remember this. Next time, perhaps you will, too.


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3 Responses to Freakout Moments

  1. Betty Romaguera San Pedro on August 24, 2017 at 3:09 am says:

    Very true:
    “but calming down after two hours of anxiety takes a bit of time.”

    I can honestly say this is a hard process for me. Not because I worry about everything, but because once I am at that level of anxiety/stress, it is not easy to come back to the “norm.

    How do you think this can be best achieved?

    I would like to know and read your insight on this.

    • bkasanoff on August 24, 2017 at 3:44 am says:

      Square breathing is the single best technique I know. Do it until you calm down.

  2. Gonzalo Torres Arguello on August 26, 2017 at 10:56 am says:

    The same happened to me! The difference was my reaction. My focus during the two hours I was looking for it was to understand that, beside the hassle nothing really bad had happened to me.
    When I found my wallet I was not only happy but grateful.

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